My name is Jesse James and this website is just like me.

I live in Seattle with my favorite girl, my wife, Violet. We’ve been a thing for more than 4 5 6 7 years now. We are currently engaged to be were married in September and legally married on December 9th 2012, the first day to legally do so in Washington state.  After the night we met we spent the next 15 months of starting to be, becoming, and being a thing with 6,514 miles in between us. About three four five six years ago we figured out how to be in the same place at the same time… finally. I like it best this way.

We have had a fish named Fraidy that lived in the little pond in our yard. I have actually only seen him twice. He spent most of his time hiding from Marcus, our raccoon. Violet says I cannot claim Marcus as ours because he she is a wild animal. However, he she and her babies lives in our tree, eat our garbage, and we always say hello in passing. We rent our home, which means we rent our pond, which means Fraidy is the pond fish aren’t technically ours either. Details. What I really want is a dog. Violet and I have the coolest dog that has ever walked the earth.

As a faggy, boi-like, lesbian, dyke, girl, androgynous, sister, partner, girlfriend wife, writer, daughter, activist, believer, friend, gardener, Cher-loving, liberal, sexy, goofy, stubborn, cocky, fragile, political, sensitive, angry, kind, self-loving person, I like this quote:

If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.” (Audre Lorde)

And so I do.

This is my web page.

(If you’d like to chat, question, comment, spout, anything about anything outside of this public forum feel free to email me at